Traveling the indie publishing road can be a daunting and lonely journey. For the novice, there are plenty of opportunities to take a wrong turn, stumble, or lose sight of your destination. The entire experience practically begs you to throw yourself an occasional Pity Party, or two, or three.
I have hosted some killer woe-is-me celebrations. Instead of a hangover, these blow outs always leave me in a funk. My last, and most impressive, fete was a month-long celebration after the rush of my book launch abruptly came to a halt. I won’t liken it to post-par tum depression (not out loud anyway), but it was pretty miserable.
Everything leading up to the launch of my book was exhilarating. I had the launch party to plan, books to order, swag to buy. The launch party was a huge success. I sold hundreds of books that month and scheduled a handful of author visits. I received scads of 5-star reviews, and my book was featured on a few blogs. People were buzzing about my book, and I was on cloud nine. Then…crickets. Nothing happened. I went from living and breathing my book to staring at a pile of them. Cue the Pity-Party music and back-up dancers.
Gloom and Doom became my BFF’s. I beat myself up for not selling more books. I couldn’t think of anything to write. And, to make matters worse, I had spent a lot of money on self-publishing a book I was sure would never again see the light of day.
Since I couldn’t write, I read. I went to the library. I started reading picture books again. I found solace in the kid lit community. I read blog posts and articles, tweets and memes.
One of the articles I stumbled upon helped me kick those heifers, Gloom and Doom, to the curb.
The author’s message helped me alter how I perceive my success and allow myself to appreciate the little moments as much as the big ones. That paradigm shift removed a huge roadblock in my writing career-a roadblock constructed by me.
My Pity-Parties are now (mostly) Pinch-Me Parties.
Instead of complaining that only 5 people showed up at my Barnes and Noble author event, I pinch myself. I look around and think, “OMG! My book is on the shelf at Barnes and Noble!” Rather than beating myself up that my online sales are not in the thousands, I take pride knowing a book I wrote is in the hands of hundreds of people around the world.
Not that I’m a masochist, but I kind of like this whole pinching thing. It seems the more I do it, the more “pinch able” moments come my way. My book is on the shelves of several book stores and libraries (pinch). I’ve been interviewed by our local TV and newspaper (pinch, pinch). The Horn Book Magazine reviewed a collection of indie books for the first time in the history of the magazine, and my book was included (bad pinch on that one-Roger Sutton is not a fairy fan). School children in the UK chose to dress up as Dust Fairies (complete with matching dust bunny dolls) for World Book Day (pinch). My book has been a #1 Kindle on Amazon (pinch). I started a successful literacy initiative, and we’ve collected more than 300 books for children of incarcerated parents (pinch).
But, the best “pinches” by far, are all of the incredibly kind, gifted, generous people I have met on this journey. Thanks for your inspiration, humor, and support.
I love hearing from you. Tell me your best pity or pinch party story!
Here’s my original blog post from last December:
I am a writer. I have met a lot of writers. Most of us are very hard on ourselves. Working in solitude affords us the time to self-reflect, which often leads to self-loathing. For many of us, our goals start small…finish a novel, get a book published, get a review, etc. Unfortunately, rather than savoring the small fruits of our labor, we are compelled to reach for the next branch. This New York Times article is a fitting reminder that those clusters of fruit, we take for granted, are a delicacy some will never taste.
As the Eagles proclaimed, “…Now it seems to me, some fine things
Have been laid upon your table
But you only want the ones that you can’t get
Don’t quit your day dream. Pull up a chair, heap your plate full, and enjoy your fruit-no matter how small.
By HARLAN COBENNOV. 28, 2014
RIDGEWOOD, N.J. — THANKSGIVING weekend in 1990, I spent two hours at the loneliest place in the world for an obscure novelist — the book-signing table at a Waldenbooks in a suburban New Jersey mall.
I sat at the table smiling like a game show host. Store patrons scurried past me, doing all they could to avoid eye contact. I kept smiling. I straightened out my pile of free bookmarks for the umpteenth time, though so far none had been taken. I played with my pen. Authors at signings like this get good at playing with their pens. I pushed it to and fro. I curled my upper lip around the pen and made it into a makeshift mustache. I clipped it to my lower lip, pinching said lip in an almost masochistic way, and was able to click the pen open by moving my jaw and pressing it against my nose. You can’t teach that skill, by the way. Practice. At one point, I took out a second pen, rolled up a spitball, and then let the two pens play hockey against each other. The Rollerball beat the Sharpie in overtime.
During the first hour of my signing, a grand total of four people approached me. Two asked me where the bathroom was. The third explained his conspiracy theory linking the J.F.K. assassination with the decision by General Mills to add Crunch Berries to Cap’n Crunch breakfast cereal. The fourth asked me if we had a copy of the new Stephen King.
I kept smiling. Four copies of my brand-spanking-new first novel — Waldenbooks knew not to order too many — stood limply on the shelf behind me. I missed the Barcalounger in my den. I longed for home and hearth, for stuffing my face with leftover turkey, for half-watching football games in which I had no rooting interest. Instead I slow-baked under the fluorescent Waldenbooks lights, the Early Hipster booksellers glaring at me as though I was some kind of pedantic squatter. I had become the literary equivalent of a poster child — “you could buy his book or you could turn the page …”
Time didn’t just pass slowly. It seemed to be moonwalking backward.
Then, with maybe 15 minutes left before I could scrape up the scraps of my dignity and head home, an old man shuffled toward me. He wiped his nose with what I hoped was a beige hankie. His eyes were runny. Odds were this was going to be a where’s-the-bathroom question, but this guy had all the makings of another conspiracy theorist.
The old man’s gaze drifted over my shoulder. “What’s that like?”
“That’s your novel, right?”
He gestured at the four books on the shelf behind me.
“Right,” I said.
He shook his head in awe. “That’s my dream, man. Seeing my book on a shelf in a bookstore.” He lowered his gaze and met my eye. “So what’s that like?”
I paused, letting the question sink in, but before I could reply, the old man lifted his eyes back to the bookshelf, smiled, and shook his head again. “Lucky,” he said, before turning and walking away.
He didn’t buy a book. He didn’t have to.
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in amwriting, authors giving back, blogging, indie author, kidlit, Michelle Eastman, Self-Publishing, writers' blues Tags: #1 book, #booknerd, #kidlit, amazon, amwriting, appreciation, author, author support, bestseller, blessed, blogging, book sales, boys' books, children's authors, children's literature, christian, fables, families, favorite bedtime stories, fiction, generosity, grateful, kids' books, kindle, legends, preschool, read aloud, rhyming, self-publishing indie author, top picture book
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in #MARCHingBookstoKids, #PBPiO, amwriting, authors giving back, charity, fairies, families, giveaway, Kevin Richter, kidlit, kids in need, Literacy, Michelle Eastman, moms, new author, new release, Picture Book Pass it On, Self-Publishing, The Legend of Dust Bunnies: a fairy's tale, writing Tags: #kidlit, #PBPiO, amwriting, author, bedtime stories, boys' books, building a picture book, children's book, children's literature, children's picture book, christian, dust bunnies, early literacy, fables, michelleeastmanbooks, moms, picture book, preschool, read aloud, rhyming picture book, self-published author, self-publishing, top picture book, writing
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in blogging, costumes, fairies, families, kidlit, Literacy, moms, new author, new release, Self-Publishing, The Legend of Dust Bunnies, World Book Day, writing Tags: author, bedtime stories, blogging, bunnies, children's book, children's literature, children's picture book, dust bunnies, early literacy, fables, fairies, fairy tale, families, favorite bedtime stories, fiction, Kevin Richter, kids' books, legend of dust bunnies, michelle eastman, michelleeastmanbooks, moms, picture book, preschool, read aloud, rhyming picture book, self-published author, top picture book
Too many picture books? That’s like saying there are too many flowers.
I am thrilled to count myself among the ranks of children’s picture book writers. I believe, whole-heartedly, in the power of picture books. It’s Picture Book Month. And I am celebrating my favorite genre all month. I am offering a Goodreads Giveaway of my new children’s picture book, The Legend of Dust Bunnies, a Fairy’s Tale. Throughout the month of November, I’ll post tips, links, and articles pertaining to my favorite genre. The following recommendations were adapted from Reading Tips for Parents, developed by the National Center for Family Literacy .
I hope you’ll discover something to enhance your family’s shared reading experiences. Please note that although children may be ready for early readers and chapter books, I implore parents to continue reading picture books with/to your children. There is no better way to connect at the end of a hectic day than to get lost in a picture book together. This ritual is one you can continue well into their teen years (yes, really, I promise). A child should not be denied this sacred time with you, just because he has “grown up”. Reading and/or revisiting picture books is a comforting ritual for children, and picture books have a magical way of opening dialogue and accessing feelings that older children may not otherwise share with you. So, crack open a picture book and enjoy!
Happy Picture Book Month!
An Age-Appropriate Guide to Books:
Your bedtime reading routine will evolve as your child develops physically and intellectually.
Birth to Toddlers
- Developmental Stage: As babies, children learn by using their five basic senses to explore the world. By age 2 years, a child can use his oral language skills to identify objects and communicate ideas.
- Bedtime reading suggestions:
- Sing lullabies and songs.
- Choose picture books with 1 or 2 pictures per page that are clear, simple, and filled with vivid colors. Repetition with these books helps foster language development by creating familiarity and associations.
- Use board or plastic books and allow the child to explore the pages.
- Help the child discover her senses through textured (e.g. Pat the Cat), scented (“scratch-n-sniff”), or squeaky books.
- Play with rhythmic activities like clapping rhymes and knee bouncing.
- Relate story time to nighttime/bedtime through simple “good night” books.
- Recommended books:
- Time for Bed, by Mem Fox (fosters early language development)
- In the Small, Small Pond, by Denise Fleming (uses language that rhymes and repetition)
- When Mama Comes Home Tonight, by Eileen Spinelli (introduces rituals)
- Hush Little Baby, by Sylvia Long (details and reinforces the parent/child bond)
3 to 5 Years Old
- Developmental Stage: Children in this age group learn that words represent objects and things. They are able to understand shapes, numbers, colors, and seasons. This is a time when children see themselves as the “center of the universe.”
- Bedtime reading suggestions:
- Read stories that repeat catchy phrases, inspire creativity and make reading enjoyable (rhyming, nonsense words).
- Look for sturdy, pop-up and pull-tag books to help coordination.
- Choose short stories that relate to everyday events.
- Introduce books focusing on the ABCs, counting, colors, and shapes.
- Kids this age love non-fiction. Read books about dinosaurs, trucks, and farm animals.
- Select simple folk tales to expand a child’s world.
- Begin to introduce longer stories and more detailed pictures.
- Look for stories that can be acted out, such as The Three Little Pigs.
- Recommended books:
- On the Day You Were Born, by Debra Frazier (story includes nature)
- The Relatives Came, by Cynthia Relant (creates an association with family)
- Cowboy Dreams, by Kathi Appelt (includes repetition, rhythm, and word play)
- Guess How Much I Love You, by Sam McBratney (encourages different and new ways to express an idea)
- There’s Something There!, by Mercer Mayer (ideas that center on the child)
6 to 8 Years Old (Beginning Readers)
- Developmental Stage: This age group is “grown up” and has many capabilities. They have a good command of language, have well developed imaginations, and are able to describe feelings and events. They like to read about things and events that are real. This is when children start to be able to see things from another person’s viewpoint. Parents and teachers of this age group should encourage children to read on their own as well as with a parent.
- Bedtime reading suggestions:
- Choose short stories with more words per page, pictures that match text, simple chapter books, and big print in chapter books.
- Let the child choose books with subjects that interest her.
- Begin to read real-life stories, simple biographies, and mysteries.
- Have fun with joke and riddle books.
- Introduce simple magazines.
- Recommended books:
- The Patchwork Quilt, by Valerie Flourney (story involves multi-culturism)
- The Tale of Peter Rabbit, by Beatrix Potter (one of the longer editions; introduces fantasies that seem real)
- May We Sleep Here Tonight?, by Tan Koide (plot that focuses on fear and resolution).
- The Sneetches, by Dr. Seuss (story that involves stereotypes and encourages conversation)
Adapted from Reading Tips for Parents, developed by the National Center for Family Literacy
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in dads, families, giveaway, kidlit, Literacy, moms, picture book month, Uncategorized, writing Tags: author, bedtime stories, children's book, children's literature, children's picture book, early literacy, fairy tale, families, favorite bedtime stories, kids' books, michelleeastmanbooks, picture book, picture book month, preschool, read aloud
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in blogging, families, kidlit, Literacy, moms Tags: bedtime stories, blogging, children's book, children's literature, children's picture book, fairy tale, families, preschool, read aloud, self-published author, top picture book
As I make my way through the self-publishing world, I continue to be amazed at the kindness of strangers. I have been touched by individuals I call “Cyber-Samaritans”. From gestures as small as a website “like”, to those as grand as spending their hard-earned free time tutoring me…I am blessed. As I stay the course, I hope to pay my blessings forward and back. My first shout-out goes to fellow self-published children’s author, Aaron Peters. http://www.heavenisblue.com
“I don’t know nothin’ ’bout birthin’ books!”
Embed from Getty Images
Prissy, from Gone with the Wind, didn’t know nothin’ ‘bout birthin’ babies, and a year ago, I certainly didn’t know nothin’ about self-publishing a book. I also didn’t know nothin’ about twitter, blogging, tags, categories, hashtags, trolls, or the true value of caffeine.
I thought once I had my manuscript polished, I was on my way to realizing a lifelong dream of being a children’s author. I quickly discovered that notion is like finally getting pregnant and expecting to hold your baby a few weeks after. Well, a baby typically takes two people to create, and the woman’s body takes care of the rest. A book, not so much. I created this new being, but I needed a heck of a lot of help to get from conception to delivery of my book.
First, I had to figure out how most picture books are put together. It turns out there is a pretty standard format as far as length and layout. But, there’s a slight problem…I can’t draw. Kind of hard to put out a picture book with no pictures. Mission Impossible…find an illustrator. Mission made Impossible-er…find one who will work with a first time, self-publishing, stay-home-mom, from Iowa, with a budget barely breaking 4 digits.
Time to throw in the towel.
Not an option. I’ve already told my 8 year old son that his mom is going to be an author. Time to consult YouTube, the all-knowing Yoda/Oprah of everything. Search for self-published children’s authors who have actually survived the process and are willing to tell their tales.
Embed from Getty Images
Enter Aaron Peters. I found and watched his You Tube video about how he self-published a kids’ book for his niece, Proof that I’m a Princess, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hflNjz-HZfI After watching his video, I’m thinking: What a cute book. I sure wish I knew this guy, so I could ask him some questions. Hey, look at that, below his video it says,“If you have any questions send me a comment or check out my website for other cool stuff.” http://www.heavenisblue.com I’ll type him a note, but I probably won’t get a reply.
Well, I was wrong about that. Aaron did reply. Not only did he answer my questions, he provided the framework for what would become the path to getting my book published. Oh, and remember my Mission Impossible-er? Aaron helped me solve that problem as well. Thanks to him, I connected with illustrator, Kevin Richter, via a service called Elance. How does a mom, from Iowa, team-up with a South-African guy, living in Great Britain, to create an awesome children’s picture book?
To be continued…
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in Literacy, moms, Self-Publishing, writing Tags: author, book marketing, book promotion, book trailer, boys' books, bunnies, children's book, children's literature, children's picture book, christian, entrepreneurs, fables, fairy tale, families, favorite bedtime stories, fiction, generosity, Kevin Richter, legends, michelle eastman, preschool, read aloud, rhyming, top picture book
Posted by Michelle R. Eastman in Literacy Tags: author, book promotion, book trailer, boys' books, bunnies, children's book, children's literature, children's picture book, christian, dust bunnies, fables, fairies, fairy tale, families, favorite bedtime stories, fiction, generosity, kids' books, legend of dust bunnies, legends, michelle eastman, michelleeastmanbooks, moms, picture book, preschool, read aloud, rhyming, rhyming picture book, self-published author, top picture book